Monday was International Self-Care Day. According to the WHO, that date was chosen as a reminder that we ought to self-care 24/7. And if you’ve followed my work for any amount of time, you know that self-care is not something we do at the end of the day, or week, or year, to recover; rather, self-care is a mindset we carry with us all day every day that shifts how we think, engage, and act.

I had the privilege of spending a few days recently with friends and colleagues at the National Speakers Association conference. Community is one of our three foundational relationships: self, others (community), and work, and as such, community is self-care. And it is built on the foundational relationship we have with ourselves.

I always say self-care is a relationship we have with ourselves, and for that relationship to be a healthy one, we need to have healthy conversations with ourselves.

But when’s the last time you had a good chat with yourself? I mean a really good chat? Where you paused for just a moment and checked in with your body? Your emotions? Mind? Soul? And you asked yourself, “How am I doing in there?”?

My guess is it’s been a long time because of the new reality we live in and let’s face it, most people have not been taught to do so, ever. And it begins by learning to pause, listen, and ask better questions. I call that “Power- Pausing.”

Read more about Power-Pausing at the full article here.

Originally published on July 27, 2023 at